Friday, January 11, 2019
Five Minute Friday link up time!
This week the word is BETTER.
"Are you better?"
Soon after we got married I felt like my husband was lying to me. He was sick with a cold. At one point I asked him if he was better. He said yes. So the next day when he was still obviously sick I felt betrayed.
"Hey, I thought you said you were better?"
It turned out he thought I was asking if he was better as in, not as bad as before. In his native language, Khmer there is a word "more good"/ "gooder". But I actually wanted to ask if he was complete healed already. We speak English and most of the time I forget he only learnt it as an adult.
We kept laughing about that misunderstanding and referring to it over the next few years. Little did we know it would feature in our conversations even more as in our 5th year of marriage he developed a chronic illness. The first 2 years he was debilitated and mostly not diagnosed. But these days we know how to live with it, a new normal and just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary.
He is never going to be completely sick-free until the Final Healing, but some days are not as bad than others. Better but not better.