Monday, January 08, 2024

What did I do in 2023?

 

Chairs from church Christmas event on Dec 31. Clear view across vacant lots where there used to be houses until Feb last year. Neighbours bikes.


When I discovered both my blog and blood tests had nothing between Jan and Nov last year, I wondered what I was doing all those months.

After checking other records, here are some things I want to remember from 2023, in no particular order.

~Our home became both bigger and smaller around Feb 2023. Until that point, we had relatives living with us and neighours in their house over the fence. But at that point the relative moved out, the house torn down, and boys moved into the back part of ours. 

~Recovering from 2022. Those Two Big Things of 2022 left such an impact. We travelled to the capital city 3 times in the first half of the year to help with that. The second half of the year a new activity started here on Tuesday afternoons which seemed to even things out. In fact, most in 2023 were impacted by 2022. Our household, our homeschooling etc.

~A strange and scary heat wave happened in May. Normally March and April are hot and we take 6 weeks off school. Then back to lessons when it gets cooler in May. But in 2023 May was actually hotter!!!! I did more reading aloud than normal lessons to survive that. An American had just given us some of her old books so it was good timing.

~ Homeschool next stage. When I first learnt about homeschooling the focus was on doing a bit of English and maths each day. Then the pandemic broke out and it gave us time to start daily desk habits to that end. It felt like it was going really well from late April 2020 until Feb 2022.

 When our daily habits were abruptly stopped in Feb 2022 I spent most of the rest of the year thinking I would go back to how we had been homeschooling. It had all suddenly ended with an emergency trip to hospital. I kept feeling like I was waiting for things to calm down and we could pick up where we left off. Sometimes in late 2022 I realised that was never going to happen nor should it. Not only was life different now since the hospital but there were other factors. The pandemic was over so life is busier, our household makeup and ministry is different AND the children are really different ages now. April 2020 they were at the stage where I was wanting to do a bit of maths and English each day as the main intentional desk-type work.  But maybe almost a year ago I realise I was starting to think about where I want my eldest to be academically wise in 5 years. So actually we will never return to those first 2 years of desk work. Late last year we started transitioning over a curriculum which I hope will see us through many years. Low stakes, easy to try it out now. Apart from those 2 months when the internet was unstable. Despite the disruption, I think we are getting the hang of it. 

~Role reversal in reading. I used to read to my kids and now I need them to read to me. (Pre-pandemic when I took the children to the supermarket I would try to point out English letters on food packets to help them start to learn to read. An unexpected 2.5, almost 3-year gap in their supermarket trips happened and it feels like they can suddenly read! No longer am I pointing out letters, but they are just picking things up to read them. And also...I can't read small print anymore, so I ask them to help me read food packets.) 

~Movies and books! I read lots of stories about Khmer history. I listed some of them on this blog already and intend to record the rest later. The dry list doesn't tell you about how amazing all the stories are and what it was like to read them but I don't have the energy for that yet. Just quickly recording that I read them last year, maybe I'll come back to that later.

My children and I went to see The Rise of Gru at the cinema, was that in late 2022?. They loved the outing and with 3.50usd a ticket it felt very doable. So since then, we have seen many movies! Once with a new friend from Tuesdays. Although the last 2 times it cost 4usd. we also saw a couple of free movies by the pool at a hotel. Although we spent lots of money on food so they were not really free!

`~ I think I lost my purple scarf that I received from students in 2006. It had a good life. It could be somewhere in our messy house, but most likely fell off me while bike riding or walking?

~ Quick visits from Aussie families. I guess with travel possible now everyone was getting on planes last year. We took a few of them to the nearby newly opened gardens and a few others came to our house.  Three families used to live here at different times, one family I knew from school (I met her in 1987?!), another 3 families live in other parts of Cambodia and I first met them at church or Bible college in Aus.

(A boring list mainly for myself: 

J,S with H and L stopped by our house to drop off medical stuff, they used to live here just before covid so it was fun to see them again. 

R,S with N and his 2 younger siblings also used to live here many years ago when our firstborn were toddlers, they stopped by and the ex- toddlers played soccer! 

An old school friend and her family were touring, we met up with them at the gardens and saw the landmine rats together.  

C and K and S who used to live here also were back in SR for a bit and we hung out in the gardens. Our firstborn also knew each other as toddlers. 

K and her 2 girls from another province had a spare day in town so we hung out at the gardens. I don't thnk I had met her children before, the main time I spent with her was when we were both single at Bible college.

Later in the year 2 Aussie families from PP visited our house, we fed them breakfast. One of them actually came at breakfast time.

Maybe there were some others, I can't remember. We also saw at least 3 Aussie ladies who brought gifts and medical stuff. So my kids got to hang out with lots of Aussie this year, although none they can see in a normal month. And we went to those gardens so many times and kept meaning to go back ourselves but we seem to only go with friends.)



Saturday, November 11, 2023

Recovering from last year

 We've spent most of this year, 2023, coping with the fallout and adjustments from last year. We had 2 big shocks last year, and many months we were just trying to get through each day.

So then this year we have just been catching our breath and trying to adjust.

School is hard this week as our internet isn't so stable and only one laptop is fully working.

So great being able to go for a quick morning ride, and buy breakfast on the way home.


Causeway at Angkor Wat just opened after many years.



Thursday, September 28, 2023

Khmer history

Sometimes I love reading memoirs etc of Khmer history, but other times I can't stand it when I've reached "horror saturation". Recently I got interested again in these books, see links below. I'm still thinking about the last one I read in Jan 2022. The Girl Who Said Goodbye written by Heather Allen

In high school, I learnt about Pol Pot time (1975-1979 in Cambodia), a very dark time. And then at Bible college, I met someone born during that time, which I found fascinating because according to what I learnt at school people were dying during that time, not being born. He went the opposite way! Anyway, 18 years later he is still fascinating and there are still more Khmer Rouge stories for me to read.

And youtube links too...

Mainly so I can remember what I've read and watched I'm collecting it all here. There are also lots of books I've read the free download sample from Amazon, hope to read the whole book one day.

John Pilger's Year Zero. It is interesting for me to see him walking around in Phnom Penh right at that point after it had been empty for almost 4 years. It would be another decade before it really opened up to the world, so seeing the situation right at the point when the Khmer Rouge regime ended.

I lived near this hotel in my first year in Cambodia. And it also comes up in reading about those bizarre days just before Khmer Rouge took Phnom Penh. So I enjoyed watching a documentary focused on it and the journalist who stayed there. 



Tuesday, January 24, 2023

A chronicle post of random things I want to remember

Things keep changing!


Before the pandemic I couldn't visit the temple park before 5:30pm. During the pandemic I could buy a long term ticket so it was possible. Rather than just the 37usd per day tickets they had other options such as 6 months/12 months for 200usd.

Now they have a free pass for expats who have been here for at least 2 years.


Building, building, building (not my photo)


I spent a lot of time riding in the park between June 2020 and October 2022 and maybe I will again one day. But right now it feels like a whole different place. The tourists are back and local families have moved out.

First mango I've seen, it means hot season is on the way.

Another change is now we can get food delivered. Before the pandemic we couldn't really. Some local run cafes started to during the pandemic but now its even easier as at least one of the apps works for us, plus a supermarket type place. If only we had had that during red zone, or when we were stuck at home with medical stuff early 2022.




Finally took the kids to see the Christmas lights in town. Oops, its Chinese New year lights now.

Five years ago we could see the sunrise as we ate breakfast. Then we grew a shady tree, so for a few years breakfast was cool and non squinty. But this year the smell of the flowers on the tree was so bad it got its head chopped off. So now we can see the sunrise again, as well as the new shoots on the trunk.
And the wood turned out to be handy during the cold weeks of Dec and Jan. What used to keep us cool kept our neighbours warm instead.

Monday, January 23, 2023

Dear Newbie





 Dear Friend,

I’m so excited to hear you are getting ready to leave your passport country and move to my host country. It’s great to hear about all the preparation you’ve been doing over the past few years to get to this point. Now you’re at the point where you actually have to think about what to pack!

You asked what apps were good for language learning. Sounds like you are eager to get a taste of the local language even before your formal classes start. From the way you asked, it seemed like you assumed I would know. It took me a while to realise my answer:  I used cassette tapes when I was at your stage.

Read the rest over here: A Life Overseas- Dear Newbie

Friday, January 20, 2023

Loss AND rebuilding exist at the same time


This month's link up with A Chronic Voice, you can read the others over here.

Summarising 2022

Two big shocks. 

Out of the blue. 

That's my summary of last year. Within a 7-month period, we faced the possibility of 2 big losses.  Neither of them eventuated so that's good, right? Well yes, we are glad, but the stress around it and the lifestyle change resulting from both shocks is still worth noting. Gratitude doesn't cancel out the pain.


I get chopped down, but I get up again.

Jagged from being hacked, AND green from new growth.

Moving

We are not moving house, but many many local families around us have just moved over the last 2 months or are about to move. 

And over the last few years, many ex-pat families have also moved away from our town /country.


Rebuilding and expecting

After what happened last year our health habits are all different now. Our community is all different too. Some have left, but some.live closer. 

We're still working out how it fits together. So much to learn and adjust to for all of us. It is hard to know what to expecf as so many things that were normal over the last 5 to 10 years are different now.

Thanks for reading and don't forget to have a read of the other chronic illness linked blogs over here on A Chronic Voice.  

Thursday, January 19, 2023

I Used to Laugh at Ghosts

 

“Aren’t you scared while your husband is away?”

“I’ll lock the door at night, and the windows have bars on them.”

“Locked doors can’t keep out ghosts.”

I don’t think I actually rolled my eyes or laughed out loud, but that was my attitude. In my early years in Cambodia, we lived next to a house full of Christian women training for ministry. When my husband was away, they worried about me. They didn’t seem to believe that I was genuinely unafraid, and I could not understand why they were afraid.

I didn’t know if I believed in ghosts or not. But what I did know was that because of Jesus, I had nothing to fear. I told them that the God of the Bible is stronger than any possible evil spirits, ghosts, or demons. He is the creator of all things, and Jesus has already conquered death. I felt satisfied that I’d given them the right reasons for why they didn’t need to fear.

I’m not the only Australian who gives off vibes of disbelief when Cambodians talk about the spirit world. My Cambodian husband Soeun also faced this attitude. When he was in Australia, he tried to explain some of his childhood to an Australian seminary student.

Read the rest over here: A Life Overseas - I Used to Laugh at Ghosts.

Sunday, January 08, 2023

Dumpling Days book


 A nice way to ease back into #homeschool routine, reading out loud.

Also a fun way to learn about kids who feel a sense of #belonging in both America AND Taiwan...

and who feel they don't belong in either place.

I asked my son to find Taiwan on the map and realised the map was given to me by a lady from Taiwan. Who now lives in America and has a Cambodian child.

A German friend lent me the book, her family is also Cambodian.

Reading about Chinese food while not eating it is painful though.

#dumplingdays

Saturday, December 03, 2022

Snapshot of life without a fully functional pancreas (T1D)

The year we had Type One Diabetes (T1D) join the family is closing. 

These word prompts lend themselves to a description of our new life.


Treating low blood sugar events are a strange new part of life. 

It makes us laugh to think it’s normal that I wake my child at 4am and force him to eat some honey. 

I shudder to think of what must be happening to his teeth. 

And wonder what the effects of sleep deprivation are on a child’s development. I know its been terrible for getting schoolwork done.

If blood glucose levels drop too low for too long it is acutely dangerous.  We must keep monitoring and keep them up. We do our best to balance insulin, amount of carbs, exercise, and other factors so he doesn’t go too low. Some days, some weeks it works out. Other times we misjudge or for some unknown reason, it doesn’t balance. 

This is what a T1D person has to do every day. No days off. 


3min funny video on treating lows



Some people need to ration insulin, so thankful that is not us. 

We can eat watermelon or oatmeal or anything we like and dose insulin to cover it. We also use exercise and water to help. But if we weren’t able to use the right amount of insulin his levels would be too high for too long. This contributes to bad health in the future. 

“Keep the monitor reader near you!”

Some days feels like I’m always reminding our T1D child to carry the phone so it’s close enough for the low alarm to sound. 

On other days I try to do as much as I can, so he can be a child and not have to think about it. On one hand, we’re training him to look after himself, on the other hand, he is too young to have the burden all by himself.  One day it will be totally up to him.

My husband has spent the year embracing his role as a “Dadcreas” (Dad who tries to be a pancreas).

Our future is caregiving around the clock. I’m not feeling all of this at the moment, but it is helpful to read this, I’m too tired to work out how to express this myself: 


“HELLO, we are working around the clock over here to keep my daughter ALIVE. By ourselves. With no medical degrees. With no daily help from a doctor. WE decide how much life-saving medicine to give her all day, every day. And by the way, too much of this said life-saving medicine could KILL her! Try to wrap your head around that!” But then people look at her and see this vibrant, healthy-looking girl and they think I’m exaggerating, or worse, using my child’s illness to get attention. 


Friday, December 02, 2022

Christmas in Expatland


 Streams of uniformed children walked into school, trampling on the scattered grey snow. As I watched from my window, I couldn’t believe my eyes; it was all wrong and weird.

I knew well ahead of time that Christmas is not a public holiday in China, but I still felt surprised. School and cold weather should not be present on December 25th.

Christmas to me meant the end of the school year and the beginning of summer holidays. That was all I’d known, my entire Australian childhood. It was for family, church, and water fights.

“We live between worlds, sometimes comfortable in one, sometimes in the other, but only truly comfortable in the space between.” –Marilyn Gardner, Between Worlds

Read the rest over at A Life Overseas

 

Tuesday, November 08, 2022

Being sick is not a vacation


Things keep changing so quickly, it feels like there is always a lot going on. I'm using the word prompts from A Chronic Voice to capture some of our life at the moment. 

It is Water Festival/Boat rowing holiday here in Cambodia. The time of year when the river changes direction and people eat dried, pounded rice. The end of the rainy season is a great time to clean the mould off everything.

Soeun has taken a group camping for this holiday the last few years, but this year they are using our backyard for holiday fun. Lots of neighbors are busy getting ready to move, so he ended up cancelling the trip.

Finishing up an infection

It’s a relief, and kind of a surprise to say our child’s sickness is finishing. With chronic illnesses so much part of our family life, I forgot some pain could heal in a matter of days.

Our child has been in pain since Thursday. After a few days of painkillers, we went to the doctor and got some antibiotics. It's Tuesday now and the pain from the ear infection is gone. We haven’t given pain meds since Sunday.

We didn't do school last Thursday or Friday. I called in a holiday at the time, but now I'm renaming it sick days. We stopped doing school because health made it hard, not so we could be refreshed.

Easing back into homeschool after a forced medical break of many months

It's not like picking up where we left off from. That day in February when the doctors told us to rush our child to the hospital we dropped everything. We had no idea it would be over 6 months before we could get our school mornings back.

It has felt like starting from scratch again. We have not jumped into the maths program I was getting them started on at the end of 2021. In late August I had the children do half an hour each morning of a maths program we used in 2020- early 2021. It felt like going backward and forwards at the same time. On the one hand, at least we are in a daily deskwork maths routine now. On the other hand, we are not using the lessons I had planned we would be doing by now.

I was never trying to school them according to what grade they would be in if they went to school. I’m aiming to help them progress through maths and English skills, so we can't really get "behind" in school work.


Comforting

Reading this book is comforting (and confronting).  If you are involved in Christian ministry, either yourself or as a supporter this is a great read, but not for the faint of heart. 



Wishing this was more obvious

Taking a medical break from school/work is not the same as a vacation/ holiday!

It sounds simple when I put it like this but I keep bumping up against this in the wrong way.

For example, we were in the hospital in February so we didn’t do homeschool that month. I was told the first little while with Type 1 in the family is intense so I thought a few months break from school was in order. March/April is our long school break/summer holiday, so we never do any school then anyway.

I tried to get started with school again in May, as that’s when I was going to start a new year anyway. But, it felt too hard. Not only were we still struggling nightly and daily with diabetes we also hadn’t had a break. While we had had a 3-month break from school, it was a time of high stress and not much sleep. I didn’t consider this when I tried to start school in May. We were exhausted, and not refreshed from our break.

I remembered back a decade ago when we were in the first years of my husband's sickness. Every break I had from work was super exhausting both physically and emotionally. For example, when I took a week of annual leave one June we had sickness all week. We spent the entire final day in the hospital, from dawn to dusk. It was a super scary day, which still impacts me even now. We got home late that night, and I turned around the next morning and went back to work. Ideally, I should have taken a break after that, but I didn’t realise that, and I don’t know if I could have organized it anyway. But I turned up for work drained. Walking straight from what I now recognise as a traumatic experience into a new term at work.

Being sick is not a vacation. I wish this was more obvious to sick people and society generally.

Thanks for reading!

Tuesday, October 25, 2022

Photos



Angkor Park

Airport

These goats near the airport are the only ones I've seen in Cambodia.

We came to the end of Narnia a few days ago.